Relationship Of Two Human

"Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interest of others." Philippians 2:4
This scripture has helped me over the past two years address my own issues with selfishness. It took me awhile to admit to myself that I had a problem with being selfish, or stingy as my nephew calls it. But when you are very slow to offer or give others your time, money, possessions, or to lend an ear to friend when they need to talk, then you may have to look at your heart and find out why that is.
The heart is the wellspring of our lives. When we have problem areas in our lives, we must address the issues in our heart. Selfishness is one of those problem areas that focuses on the self too much and not enough on the plight of others. When you harbor selfishness in your heart it causes you to think of all the reasons why you shouldn't help or reach out to others when they need it.
If selfishness is allowed to go unaddressed in your life for too long, even after your family and friends may have confronted you on this issue many times, you will start to see how it affects your relationships and other areas of your life. Your relationships will suffer and you may even begin to lose friends or cut off loved ones because of your unwillingness to get yourself off your mind and help others.

Why do certain people or situations trigger an emotional response in us? Maybe a work colleague is aggressive towards us and we react either by leaving the room or sitting frozen to the spot.
The answer lies in our unexpressed emotions. In childhood if our needs weren't met, for example, a parent subdued our anger with a threat or named and shamed - blaming us for things that weren't our fault - the emotion that we felt gets 'split off'.
The strangest thing is that as we grow we begin to see the split off part all around us in others yet most of us are unaware of them.
So if someone says they 'don't do anger' (or another negative emotion) and yet it seems to follow them around chances are they need to reclaim their split off part or their projection.
Five steps to reclaiming your projections:
1. Begin to notice what it is about people that get on your nerves or you just can't stand being around.

If you have doubts about your relationship, or if it is already circling the drain, think about these 4 "secrets". They will help you to find and maintain a happy relationship. Then put them into action in your own situation. You might suddenly start looking at your relationship in a whole new way.
1. Be Glad for What You Have Part 1
How to be in a happy relationship, you wonder? Maybe you already are, but you just don't know it. Sit yourself down and make a list of every single thing, large and small, that your spouse does for you every day, without talking about it. And without complaining or expecting thanks.
Include even tiny things like putting the toothpaste cap back on, as well as looking after the kids while you watch The Simpsons. Or filling up your car's gas tank, or taking out the garbage. You may suddenly realize, Hey, my spouse is really great!
2. Problems? Do This...
Problems and rough spots? Well, duhhh... every relationship has 'em. No surprise there. So be the first to make the effort to talk about them, and reconnect with your spouse. Break through the person barrier we all put up around ourselves. Be friendly. Say Hi, how did your day go?
Your spouse is supposed to be your best friend, so share your life and your world with him or her. Do things together. This makes for a more casual, easy-going atmosphere, where there is less pressure on the two of you to be perfect. Where it is easier to open up and talk things over.

WHY?
There are so many reasons to send poems about life to the people you care about. Or to a business colleague who has dome something important that deserves recognition. Next time there is a special occasion you should sending a rhyming tribute instead of an ordinary card. You will be amazed at the reception your tribute gets. You will make someone's day and there's no better feeling than that.
HOW TO BEGIN?
Make a list of the wonderful qualities this person has. Are they brilliant? Did they discover a new green energy source that is sure to save the planet? Or did they just go through a harrowing health crisis and show bravery beyond compare? Or maybe it's someone who puts up with you when you're moody and behaving miserably and, instead of walking out on you, they give you a hug. Poems about life can be about any of these situations or thousands of others that happen daily. So once you've got their qualities written down start weaving them into a story.